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dysphemistic treadmill's avatar

The original meme from "Culture Critic" is couched in terms of economics, but to me it reads more as nostalgia for female subservience.

Oh for the days of Father Knows Best, when a man was king of his castle.

Yeah, I grew up in fifties-land, and it was horrible, for women and for everyone except Father.

You may as well be nostalgic about the joys of being a white slave-owner in the antebellum south.

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Matt Hagy's avatar

> This is downstream of material prosperity — mothers are less economically dependent than they used to be — but I think it’s probably not ideal for kids’ social and emotional development.

I think this an instance of a general trend that both conservatives and leftists want to deny: As we get richer, we want to purchase more independence and distance. Everyone wants to believe in some concept of community, people tied together in meaningful interdependence. Yet our revealed preference is that we mainly want to get away from each other.

Our desire for connectivity is likely largely based on the benefits, particularly being able to rely on others. No one is particularly excited about the costs; the obligations to support and accept others. Add in adverse selection, those who can contribute the most have least to gain, while those with greatest needs offer the least, and our illusion of community collapses.

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